Dicipher Reflections from Reality

Dancing better then yourself

2011-10-03T12:07:00.000-07:00

Hello Readers,

I can't believe we are already one whole month into our crazy dance years. We are officially knee deep in a whole lot of projects and the ball is rolling sometimes faster then I can keep up with it.

The positive atmosphere in our studio is sticking around and growing as each day passes. But like anything in life sometimes a smidge of the negative creeps in.

When anyone is put in an environment when they want to try their hardest and do their best people can become competitive. It's part of who we are as humans. We do compare ourselves to others and sometimes we are our own worst critics.

When I talk to my dancers I want them to understand that striving to be like someone else is a good part of the goal they should push towards, but it should never be the WHOLE goal. As a dancer we need to realize that we can't be exactly like someone else. We are all different. We all shine in different ways. This is the beauty of dance. We are artists and athletes but we have to remember that no two dancers are EVER the same.

Baryshnikov said it best when he said "I do not try to dance better than anyone else. I simply try to dance better than myself" I love this quote. Because we need to know what our body limits are and what our potential is.

As I continue to push forward in this crazy dance world I see that accomplishment of dancers are being achieved at much younger ages. The dancers are little powerhouses of potential and they work so hard to learn as much as they can as quickly as time allows. Something I want these little work-a-holics to remember is that not everything comes out perfect right away. Not every dance day is the same. Sometimes turning comes easy to us. Sometimes leaping comes easy to us. Sometimes picking up choreography comes easy to us. We are all different and everyday is different. That's the best part of dance.

I want all our dancers to realize the importance of taking the time to reflect on their daily goals and accomplishments. Sometimes just sitting down at the end of the class (which all of my dancers do at the end of every class) and picking something they want to work on and picking something they are proud of from the day is just what they need to remember that we all have something we want to do better, but most importantly we all have something we are proud of from the day.

Sometimes when we have an off day the negative noise in our heads shouts above the positive praise we hear and say. I want people to remember that we are our worst critics and at times it is very humbling to be able to point out the areas that we need to work on. But we have to learn as people to accept a compliment and remember to compliment ourselves.

Dancing is what makes me happy. Sometimes I create dances that my dancers will talk about for months, and sometimes we do a combination that is totally craptacular and I don't like it at all. It happens. We are humans. But being able to appreciate what I learn from my "off" days and apply it to my next day to help make that next day be better is something I really want dancers to start doing in their daily routine.

Not every day will be perfect. We will not feel good about everything we do. But what we do need to do is take the time to pick out what really went wrong, how we can work on it to fix it and make it better, and remember that we did do something good as well. All of these things will help us stay on a forward moving path.

These things don't just apply to the dance world. I apply it to my everyday life as well (even though much of my world revolves around dance) I do see that recognizing my challenges and working to smoothing them out is important, but so is reflecting on the things that I do well and am proud.

Starting your day off with a goal and a proud of moment is a great way to kick off the day, but it's also a fabulous way to end your day. I hope that taking the time to do this in my dancers days is helping them stay focused but also positive in their dance days. They are fabulous and they do have things to work on. But that is the beauty of dance. It is ever changing and we will always have new things to learn, work on, and be proud of.

Until next time

Peace Love and Dance

Holy Cow---almost a whole year....I'm not dead I promise

2010-06-25T17:36:00.000-07:00

Hello readers (do I have any of you left?)
I haven't visited this site in a very long time. And I am deeply sorry for my absence. I promise that I am going to recommit myself to blogging about my fav reality moments and of course keeping you posted on my reality.

To start I had a very successful year just teaching dance, and am a completely happy and energized person. This is very different from where I was a year ago. I was miserable in a job that kept me underpaid and overstressed. Now my friends, life is good!!!!

I have been seriously engrossed in my reality shows lately, and that's mainly because I've had a lot more free time. I can't lie but for those of you looking to escape your own reality you really should consider the over-the-top "reality" they show us on TV. My favorite channel for my reality dosage is of course BRAVO They have their finger on the pulse of what we want to watch. Whats not to love.

I'm definitely addicted to any of the Real Housewives shows. Of course my fav's are New York and New Jersey. What can I say I'm an East Coast girl all the way. Bethenny one of my favorite ladies from New York got her own spin off called Bethenny Getting Married?

One of my favorite ladies of comedy Kathy Griffin has her own show, My Life on the D List. She cracks me up, yet I am not sure I watch it to see her or to see her boxed wine loving mum Maggie. Maggie loves to TIP IT ;o)

Who can forget my other guilty pleasure Flipping Out. God I love Zoila the little house maid who constantly gives her boss a hard time.

Bravo definitely serves a great line up whether it be summer, fall, winter, or spring.

I guess you could say that my reality show addiction is a little to far fetched but its fun to see other peoples lives, because honestly it makes me very happy within my own life.

I've given up on MTV or VH1 producing any kind of good reality TV. MTV did have a series called 16 and pregnant which spawned another series called Teen Mom. I have mixed emotions about those two shows, because as MTV claims the series were meant to bring teenagers awareness about teen pregnancy and try to help prevent another outbreak of many young parents. However I see both sides the pros and the cons for this show, I have to think in the back of my head, some teenagers may want to get pregnant after watching this show...hey it could get them on a reality show after all....maybe I'm too pessimistic about teens. Maybe my view would change if I was exposed to it more.

You may wonder about other networks and if I watch their shows. I tried out Style channels Jerseylicious. A show that followed a Jersey hair salon, however I feel like it was just made up drama to pull us in. Speaking of Jersey, what is the fascination with Jersey, even MTV jumped on the Jersey bandwagon (please note Bravo you started it with your Jersey housewives...imitation is the best form of flattery remember) they started a show called Jersey shore. We met a bunch of tan loud drinking 20 somethings as they partied their summer away down at the Jersey shore. They had a small job to do and that was to work a beach store down on the boardwalk. I admit it I watched it, but it was like a car accident you had to look.

I've tried on many different shows but really only find myself enjoying the Bravo network. I am hoping to watch the shows each week, read the cast mates blogs and reflect back on here for anyone who cares to know my opinions.

I hope that I can keep up with this task and feel that if I give myself a whole week to do the watching and the reflecting I might actually get myself on a pattern of writing.

Hope everyone is enjoying their summer. I know I have lots of fun things planned, so don't worry I wont be glued to my TV and laptop all summer.

Happy Summer, see you all soon!!!!

I'm Freeeeee

2009-08-30T16:08:00.000-07:00

Well readers its been a while since you've been updated and I guess you could say a lot has happened. This July the wife and I had our long awaited vacation to Myrtle Beach planned. 10 days before we were to leave the airline cancelled our charter flight, no reason but "they can" and they would be refunding my trip in full in 10 to 14 business days (it took 16 days actually) So I was beyond upset about the cancellation, but it was decided, suck it up and make it a fun little road trip. So the plans were in motion for us to be driving to Myrtle Beach. I busted my butt the final few days at work to make sure that all payroll was processed and completed before my departure including quarterly payroll tax returns. Well I arrived at work on my last day before vacation time at my usually 730 am to make sure I get enough time in and I was met at the door by the two VP's . Ms. Mary and Mr. Mark. they stopped me before I could even reach my office.

Well they then asked me to enter the conference room and they stood on one side of the table and looked to the corner behind me where I followed their glance and realized that my personal belongings had been packed. Well I looked back at them and asked bluntly "am I fired?" Mary nodded her head in agreement and Mark couldn't even look at me. So I said may I ask why, and Mary responded "I am not at liberty to discuss that with you" I then asked if I would get my vacation pay and she stated yes. I then grabbed my boxes and headed out the door. I couldn't believe this. What had I done? Should I still go on vacation? What am I gonna do? the questions were racing through my mind and the whole time I was shaking.

After digesting the initial shock of this news I became of course bitter as I had done nothing, I called my dance boss right away and she listened to me and offered advice. She said I would be find and we'd be sure to get me something. She really helped calm my nerves. She also said you NEED to go on your vacation so I did. I enjoyed 8 glorious days in the sun with friends and was so proud that we saved our money from the wedding because the trip really didn't cost us any money.

The moment I returned I filed for unemployment and began the job hunt for something part time. I began to realize that this was truly a blessing in disguise because I was not treated fairly at that company at all. For almost two years I was overworked and underpaid.

Well when I returned I went to the computer to see if my final paycheck was direct deposited and it turns out that it wasn't so immediately I called the office to see what the problem was and was told that no one got their money direct deposited and that we would be getting physical checks. So I stated I would pick up the check. Apparently they had hired someone to start the day I left. The company is beyond corrupt and the three people running the company are the masterminds behind it all.

I don't regret the time I spent there because I did good work in a timely manner and I knew what I was doing. There is nothing in my p-file to state otherwise. But who knows what they could falsify up and put in there.

At the end of the day I am free. I am free from dealing with the bullshit that that company put me through. Putting my professional judgment in jeopardy as well as making me work for what a secretary should be paid. I am happy. My attitude is amazing and life is fine. Yes money is tight yes I will miss the money that was made but this too shall pass and I am FREEE from that horrible place.

Ok now...back to some tarot reading.

The Birthday Approaches

2009-08-07T20:04:00.001-07:00

Well Folks, I am on the eve of my 27th birthday----yup I can't believe it either. I am excited because I'm looking at it as a new beginning another year ready to make the best of it. I have so much to look forward to. Next week we have dance camp and I'm so excited to start working with the students I really can't wait. Then we have girls weekend away with two of my most favorite ladies around!!!!

Its funny in my last post I made large comments about choosing your good thoughts and my friends its amazing how trying to stay positive really just make life seem ok. I haven't found another part time job yet but I'm thinking the right one just isn't ready to find me yet. It will come in time.

I am sitting at home in front of my lap top and large pad of paper trying to get some choreography set for dance camp next week and I think I'm to excited about my birthday to do it. I feel like a little kid you know getting excited before Christmas or a big vacation.

No huge plans for this birthday, just an early afternoon massage then dinner with some great friends. This may be my first actual birthday party ever...having summer birthday's is often hard because of every ones crazy schedules.

I hope everyone had a great week and they are soaking up the sun as much as they can as the summers end is rapidly approaching.

Until next time readers-----

Thoughts Become Things Choose the Good Ones

2009-08-02T20:18:00.000-07:00

Well my readers, its been a while since I have last written and alas I don't have witty comments or feedback on any reality shows to share with you. But I do have lots of personal news to update.

As I write right now I am watching a video titled the secret. I'm pretty sure you might have heard of the book, and yes there is a video of it too. A good friends husband suggested that I watch it and I can't think of a better time for me to be reminded of all of these positive thinking and affirmations.

I went on vacation last week to my most favorite place in this country, Myrtle Beach. I got to see one of my best friends in the whole world and just escape from the realities that I had been dealing with here in cheese land. Well the day before I was to leave on vacation I walked into my horrible office job and was fired on the spot. I was not given a reason and I was not given a chance to even pack up my personals for myself it was done for me. I had seen this coming and thought about it for about two weeks before it happened. I put it out there to the universe that they would let me go and guess what folks it happened.

I shook and was outraged at first, I wasn't even given a reason, they told me they were not at liberty to discuss that with me. I was so upset, should I not go on vacation now, what was I going to do. I didn't have time to plan for this happening. But my friends this awful news truly was a blessing in disguise. I made a pro and con list of that company and I was definitely shocked at the length of the con list. Staying in a piousness atmosphere not only effected me at the job but in my home life, my creative life, and just all around me life. It was terrible. I will not air the company's dirty laundry on this blog because I don't think that the blog would support the length in which that type of blog would need to be to include all the details. Long story short I fretted for about 5 hours after I got home about it and then realized you know what Jessica Marie, you hated that job, you complained daily at the job off the job. It was not worth it. I became a bitter and high strung person (if that is possible considering I'm pretty high strung by myself) And during vacation I didn't worry about it one second.

Today as I sat down to watch the secret I realized that I am so much happier. I literally sat down at my desk and whipped out three great sketches for the sets for my musical theatre company piece I'm doing. I had been meaning to do it for weeks. I just didn't have the spark or the drive to do it. I would sit down to do it and get distracted or feel that I had millions of other things I had to do. I also whipped out another whole class of lesson plans. ONE WHOLE YEAR of them. It just flowed out. I think that eliminating that negativity and poison from my life made me enjoy the day a little more.

I am not stressing that if I had to go to the office to do the payroll and catch up from being gone for so long. I am just so relieved. Tomorrow I get to go to an interview, and spend the rest of the day at the farm with my wife which is going to be great.

I really am feeling optimistic about the future. I always thought it was necessary to have a desk job and benefits and not pursue what makes me happy. Knowing that I am teaching so much more and have the ability and option to just relax a little. Its an amazing feeling. and the best part is I have friends that are so there for me that they have been sending job opportunities my way and of course the support that helps me get through the day. Tami and Jeni have been so great to me and my April too of course its amazing to feel so supported in a time where you feel down and upset. I believe that I am feeling so confident and at ease because they have helped me feel this way.

My friends and readers please take some time to just look at your life and what you think about each day. A wise boss of mine once told me the quote that "thoughts become things, choose the good ones" I have to admit that for song I allowed myself to choose the bad ones and the negative ones. I tell my grandma everyday that you have to stay positive and fight her cancer, well even if its just the thoughts its still the positiveness in which she attacks each day that will get her through the day. I think we all have to keep that in mind its important. So I challenge you to this. Choose one good thought a day. And as the weeks go on add more and more. I would love to hear about every ones positive thoughts. Now I'm not saying that automatically your life will be negative-free or you wont have obstacles to climb. Its how we face those obstacles and attack them. So lets attack them together with positive thoughts and actions.

Remember THOUGHTS BECOME THINGS...CHOOSE THE GOOD ONES!!!!!!!!

Season Finale of New Jersey Housewives

2009-06-16T20:06:00.000-07:00

Hello my faithful readers.

It has been some time since I last blogged, I've been quite busy dancing away and really enjoying the summer. We had a successful inter-session with our dancers and Ms. Jeni and I had a lot of fun taking each others classes and working together. Let me tell you no one should EVER stop taking a ballet class, I have never been in more shape then I was when I took almost three classes a week and getting back into it really helped my body realize what it was missing...

any way back to our ladies in New Jersey.

Although I had my doubts about this season I have to say I'm just as hooked as I ever could be with my New York ladies (of course they will always be my number one gals). This season finale left no stone unturned. Its hard to really hold any suspense in whats gonna happen because they did keep showing previews all week to lead up to its airing but I mean it was still pretty entertaining.

Of course in the first few scenes we got to see Theresa's beautiful new house. I can't wait to see it fully furnished. Its absolutely gorgeous and if I had her kinda money I would deck out my house that same way. If your gonna spend the money make it exactly what you will want forever. I envy her I really do. Caroline shows us her big mean German Shepard who will pretty much kill any intruder it is instructed to kill. Good kinda dog to have around I guess. (come on we all know their families aren't just "hard workers" protection is always a good thing, at least they are doing it in the form of a dog who will provide companionship and not just a gun )

Danielle---when she appears whats she doing talking about that stupid book...for all who don't know one of the housewives had herself mentioned in a book which revealed some devious past she had, apparently it spread "all around town" (hello its all over America now idiot) and showing her daughters her old modeling pictures. I have to say that the scenes with the kids are just a little to staged...and it shows. The kids don't want to be on TV looking at their mothers freaking old modeling pictures. If Danielle was such a good model and actress why doesn't she call her "contacts" and get herself some work to support her family instead of looking for a poor rich sap to support her and her daughters...we may never know.

Dina, I absolutely love her. There is a scene where she and her daughter are cleaning the daughters room and it just makes me laugh because it reminds me of me and my mother cleaning out all my old "little kid stuff' when I was Lexi's (that's her daughters name) ages.

Down to the good stuff. Theresa wants to host a dinner for the ladies and invites everyone despite the obvious hostile environment that is created around Danielle and this book (FYI Danielle has been stating that poor Dina was showing the book all over town) Anyway at a gorgeous dinner that Theresa and her family host for everyone Danielle brings out the book....come on this was planned just wanted to show it off again obviously. As Jill Zarin (one of my favorite NYC ladies) mentioned on her blog, if she wanted it to be that big of a secret don't you think she should have blacked out the title nope. It flashed again and again and again on the big screen throughout the whole episode, and will for every re-run.

Anyway everyone begins an all out war at the table, pinning friend against friend, and family against family. Its nasty and I'm shocked that these adult women let this one person and their nasty past effect their lives so much, I think that Jacqueline's husband said it best to let it go and just be thankful for their health and the ability to enjoy a beautiful dinner. However of course Danielle couldn't drop it and pissed innocent quiet Theresa off to the point where she flipped a table and officially burst a vein I think...she better watch out for those new bubbies or she could have burst one.

My advise for these ladies VOTE DANIELLE OFF the island.....I'm sure that more juicy gossip will come out at the reunion. I feel that they may get a second season. I know that Jacqueline and Theresa are expecting new babies and I'm thinking that they will definitely want to continue this saga a little further.

I love Bravo and all their cheesy reality TV they create for me to get lost in. I am so happy that Kathy Griffin my life on the D-list is back, and I hear there is some new show about spoiled brats that go to prep schools is starting...yaaay more for me to get lost in and forget the world of my reality for a while.

have to let you know (sorry this is so lengthy) that My Nannie had her surgery and its been a definite roller coaster through the healing. She went into the ICU the other day and had two liters (yes I said liters folks a bottle of soda) of fluid drained from her lungs, she goes home tomorrow then starts more chemo on Thursday. Aprils grandma hasn't been doing well and has an obstructed bowel and will be going through surgery tomorrow afternoon. As if these women don't have enough issues they make us worry at the same time....tsk tsk.

Summer Session starts soon for dance, until then I will begin my choreography for that and of course the company pieces I will be doing. I'm really excited for both and promise to blog later this week to share the details.

Until then my dears enjoy the rest of the week, sit back and watch some reality TV...don't forget So You Think You Can Dance is on now....so enjoy I'd love to hear about your escape shows as well (o:

xoxo

Can't get any easier---

2009-05-09T19:00:00.000-07:00

Happy Saturday evening readers. Today we had our morning performance show dress rehearsal at the dance studio with all of our younger students. I have to tell you how absolutely adorable it is to see our young dancers so proud of their costumes and ready to perform. Putting the costumes on really enhances their dancing and their stage presence.

I have to say that during my ten odd years of teaching dance I have never seen a more organized rehearsal. Everything is planned out and the parents are so informed that it would be hard for any detail to be overlook....that of course except for the parents who choose to ignore the obvious and who haven't in their 30-some odd years learned to read and really plan.

Back in November we handed out a very detailed information package to all our students which clearly outlined every rehearsal what the students needed to bring, where they needed to be and when....yet there was s till the students who arrived late, un-prepared, or not even at all.

We as instructors go over numerous times with our students, and the parents what is needed etc. This studio is so organized they even hand out a sheet to their students which explains exactly what needs to be done for the hair and make-up of each student for each dance, however you would be surprised how many people came with hair that was not correct, forgotten accessories, and the best---no make up at all. But in the true organized fashion we teachers and the awesome front desk managers got each student ready in time and had a pretty successful rehearsal.

I guess my real point in this rant is that I really don't understand how any detail could be over looked, and I'm surprised that people who are given so much information really don't utilize what they are given. I wish that when I was young I had all the information ready for me for performances. I feel that these students really get a full experience from us as far as education in dance and performance. I am proud to be a part of the faculty at AStepAbove and feel that my skills as a teacher have been enhanced by working there.

I have to say also a little rant that we even give our students written evaluations each year which help them understand their strengths and areas that need additional work and focus. This assists the students in understanding their accomplishments and also assists in them setting their goals. However like anything positive we try to provide from our students there are always parents and students who feel that something is "unfair" or "incorrect" what these complaining persons fail to understand is that all of us who teach at ASA are dance degreed individuals who have dedicated their college education and careers to teaching dance and are extremely competent in all that we do.

I had a negative experience with my Hip Hop class on Friday. As when our students receive their evaluations they also receive their "placement" for next year---meaning which level they will be in. Well I had some unhappy students as they were not moved up to the next level. Technically and ability wise they are not ready to move into the next level and I know that I am correct in my decisions to keep them where they are with the possibility of moving up should they take summer classes, or show more improvement within the first few weeks of classes in the fall. Anyway I had to sit my students down as I had one walk out of the room because she was upset about an adjustment to a formation change because of an unexpected injury and inability to perform in the recital. I think that the reaction to the adjustment was fueled by the placement issue and the adjustment kinda just wore on her. But in the end after explaining to the students the placement decisions (even though this was all covered in Feb) they seemed to understand a little better and in the end gave me a hug because it was our last class.

All in all I have to say that ease in which ASA provides information and assistance in all that we do we provides a great service to our students and our parents. I hope that they realize how much we enjoy being a part of their students dance education and also how much that Tami the director does for them. In short preparing their child for a performance can't get any easier at A Step Above.

When you work hard----

2009-05-06T13:23:00.000-07:00

Well readers, I'm taking a moment to kinda of stray from my reality show rants and just rant for a second about something that had me really heated the other night.

Actually I'm sure I can tie it into my reality show addiction so here ya go. A couple episodes ago on RHWoNYC Jill was interviewed by a British news station regarding the economy and they questioned her decisions to purchase and redo her apartment when the economy is in a recession and in true Jill fashion she answered politically and may I ad poetically. She simply smiled and said I work hard for what I have and remember to give back when I can. She also stated that they are living within their means, their family works hard and enjoys the fruits of their labors. That is commendable for anyone right now in these tough economic times.

Now I don't consider myself wealthy or rich, but I am lucky. I have two jobs which produce a very steady and lucrative income, my wife has a steady job and we live in a very reasonably priced rented apartment. Why rent you say? Because we haven't found our dream house yet, because we don't know exactly what we want or where we want to live so we stay in a place that suits our needs and also allows us to save money elsewhere. Our apartment is just over 1100 sq feet we have a two car garage and the utilities are low. We can't complain. One of our cars is paid off and we have no debt besides student loans and one car payment. That is pretty well for such a young couple.

Well the other night my wife was speaking with an old friend via instant messenger and they were talking about coach bags, for those of you that know me---that is my weakness shoes and handbags. I like them, I like to shop for them, and I save for them. Anyway, the friend began questioning my wife if she had any Coach bags and April replied yes we have a lot of them. Jessica likes them so I buy them for her often or shes buys them for me or herself. (Between the both of us we have nine) I like to switch them up and keep them in good shape, and I also like to have a choice when it comes to my accessories.

To continue...Maria (that is the friend) asked April where we got them? April said the Coach outlet. Jessica likes her bags but refuses to pay full price for them (come on I am a bargain shopper folks) Maria proceeded to ask more questions about the handbags, as to why she couldn't find the ones we had on the Coach website. Clearly this individual is not fashionably sound as like clothes handbags go through collections and seasons as well as designs. Most of mine are previous collections and you can tell by the colors (for instance my red hobo for the holidays) any way she then was like I bet you bought them from a foreigner outside Wal-mart didn't you guys? April got upset and so did I, we didn't do that nor would I want to, why waste money on anything that will fall apart. These bags cost money but they DONT fall apart they are well crafted and made of leather.

Needless to say this Maria character hit a hot button. Then she began to ask April how we could afford that and it must be nice to spend over $100.00 dollars on a handbag.

My response.....it is nice. I work hard for what I have. I pay for my own living costs, I have a car that is paid for, I have an education that is paid for, and yes I have designer bags that I have paid for. Its not a crime to have nice things. The handbags are not put on credit cards, they are not bought with money that I do not have. We work hard and the extra money that we do have allows us to indulge in things we enjoy. We have large savings that is there when we need it and I have a nice purse to put my big hefty check book in.

I would like to say to this Maria character, that Jealousy is a Sickness...get well soon. In today's world we need to be thankful for the little things, but I also see myself as a lucky person to have two jobs when there are people who do not have one. However I have also created a savings for myself should I find myself without one. Its all about planning. We have to be thankful for what we have, but I refuse to be ashamed of what I am able to purchase for myself either. I work to hard and have worked to hard to have what I have and be able to do what I do.

I am a true believer in what my home girl Jill said from RHWoNYC you have to live within your means and we are. April and I are living within our means. There will come a time after we purchase a house that I will not have the ability to buy nice things all the time for myself but I have that ability now, and the ability to save as well. I am grateful for all that I have but also know that I am proud that I can have what I have and do what I do for other people.

I look at it like this, Life is good, Work Hard, Play even harder. It all pays off---when you work hard.

What a Finale

2009-05-06T11:03:00.000-07:00

Well readers, last night I sadly watched the season Finale of RHWo NYC. It was full of Drama and actually suprised me a little.

For any of you who may be familair with the show, all season we were gearing up for Jill Zarins fundraiser for her daughters athritis cause Creakyjoints and last night we got to see the hard work pay off. BUT (yes there is a but come on its reality tv we're talking about here people) before we get to see all the hard work pay off we have to be indudlged with our weekly dose of housewife drama.

It strikes me funny how much these women truely believe that they do what they do out of the kindess of their hearts. I mean, I'm not dissing my girls (I would never do that) but seriously most of the time that the wealthy do charity events is becasue it in some way brings a benefit to them, (the saying is true nothing in this world is free) So when the scene at Jill's apartment came on and Romona (the little wine-o) flips on Jill because of a "Step and Repeat" (for those of you including myself who don't know, a step and repeat is the area outside those big flashy events where companys have logos on it for stars and attendees to have their pictures taken in front of.) Anywho, Wine-o decides that she will take the ettiquette and class police hat away from from the countess (yes there is a countess on this show no lie) and tell Jill that if Jill puts her husbands fabric business on the step and repeat its tacky....Really people I'm pretty sure that all of america didn't know what a flippin step and repeat was until this episode and now we will forever know and wonder how much money people actually paid to have their logos behind the stars at events. Eventually the fued dies down and we move on (in true howsewife fasion)

Then we cut to the actual set up of the event where supringly Wine-o is there to help as much as she can, which includes flipping out again about sineage---is this all she has to do? push Jill's buttons and get her going---I think that was the whole purpose to her pointing out that in back of the bar that Bethenny got donated for this event were advertisements for the liquor company supplying the booze and also her company from which the booze was coming from. Romona again gets back on her high horse and begins to bitch about advertisement space...really is this really happening? Bethenny and that company gave a bar worth $25K for free--dontated...i think they should be able to advertise a little dont you think? I was disapointed that this event was being cast under a dark cloud of what is right and what is wrong by someone who is so out of control when it comes to her own tongue (again I'm referecning Romona the Wine-o) that I feel this was her only time to be a star this season. So she decided to flaunt it and really just be the rain on the fundraisers parade.

Well skipping ahead to the event ( cause in between lame-o scenes happen in between) we see Bethenny who is advised of the little Romona tyraid that she produced again because of someone elses advertisement at the event decides to confront Jill as she was told Jill was "talking behind her back" it was quite supsenful..really were my two favorite ladies going to fight and have outs at this event, all because the evil Wine-o.....no my friends, they quickly made up as true girlfriends do and moved on with the event. Jill raised tons of money I believe the grand total was over $100,000.00 for creakyjoints and she proceeded to thank everyone that helped which was very humble of her too.

This season was full of suprises and of course good old fashion girl drama. The thing I have to say that I like about the NY housewives is they are rather opinionated right to each others faces. Some one who never had seen the show would be clearly and utterly confused if they only watched one episode, cause like a day in new england where you can get all four seasons in one day, the real housewives moods and friendships change in a matter of seconds----perhaps its an east coast thing. But one thing doesn't change, they always support each other and always are rather bluntly honest. I like them and applaud them for that.

Now the other Bravo housewives...they dont have as much respect as I have for the NY cast...NJ has some big shoes to fill we'll see if they can do it, but as described in an earlier blog about them they are all family so it could get interesting to see what happens to the couple of housewives who aren't.

As this season on NY ends I anxiously await the reunion special cause its always fun to see a couple more cat fights go down---which from reading cast members blogs on bravo has shown it will be full of juice, nasty looks, and about 40 of Kelly's STOP STOP STOP rants (shes so lame) I'm sure Bravo will have another marathon this weekend gearing up for the reunion so if you find yourself with some down time, sit back relax and get lost in the reality of some Housewives from NYC>

You've got to be kidding

2009-04-30T08:50:00.000-07:00

Well readers, you all know I have openly confessed my love for reality TV here in my little blog, however sometimes I think it just gets stretched to far.

Prior to starting this little blog I had tried my hand out on one called Reality Bites----I watched a reality show and blogged about it following the episode---my first blog was about the new wave of "Love Connection" shows that are springing up every couple of months, mainly out of VH1.

As I was reviewing my tweets this morning I stumbled across a tweet from AfterEllen and had a good laugh right here in the middle of my office.

VH1 started out with a rather commercial rendition on love shows when they premiered Flavor of Love---really who would want to fall in love with that?---didn't he do a behind the scenes special where he cashed a well-fare check? Then it was a huge snow ball effect from there, not only did we get a season 2 out of it but then we met the lovely New York who had her two shows trying to find love, then another trying to find a job....The list continues my friends, and it only gets cheesier and more corrupt from there.

Out of no where came a tiny female who was searching for "A Shot At Love" the twist she was bi-sexual---We were introduced to Tila Tequila and from there became hooked (lets face it open hot lesbian make outs on prime time television is a reason to watch for anyone) of course in the end stupid Tila picked a guy, in stead of cute, nice, and personable Dani (female) she then of course gets a second round at it and AGAIN picks wrong and chooses the guy---Seriously Lisa was H-O-T-T.

Continuing on in true VH1 fashion (I mean they have got to be getting ratings they keep making more right?) We get Brett Michaels, we all know him, we all loved him (those of us that grew up to our moms listening to hair bands like myself) he decides he wants to find his Rock-of-Love...well folks he gets three swings at it, the final one ending on a tour bus, and ding ding ding, one of his rejects gets her own show, which I will let you know I will NOT watch.

Now that I've digressed far to much, back to the AfterEllen Tweet----Now I feel that VH1 may have hit rock bottom. They have offered to do another spin-off of "A Shot at Love" and this time make it based around a HUGE MTV has-been Aubrey O'Day. Lets face it lady, if Diddy doesn't want you leave the business. I think that the AfterEllen blog pretty much covered the bases as to why she is doing this show, she needs another 15 minutes of fame. I just can't understand how someone who was talented and humble in the beginning became so far out there.

I'm not sure that I can really recommend this show to anyone to watch, so instead this is my time to warn you about a horrible upcoming bit of reality that people will try to get us to watch. Lets not and say we did, we all know we can catch the gossip on the blogs and twitter...I'm hoping that the ratings go down and we are no longer going to be exposed to this kinda desperate behavior at becoming the next big thing.

...it's coming to an end

2009-04-29T19:03:00.001-07:00

Sadly my friends my favorite Bravo series is coming to an end soon. Real Housewives of NYC will be airing its last episode this season next week and of course its said to be jammed packed with drama....and then of course there is the reunion special....coming soon

Being extra interested in expanding my knowledge of social media and also online facets of entertainment information I became extremely involved in Twitter, and of course the reading of other blogs. . . . Among those blogs I have become hooked on Jill Zarin's from RHWoNYC and Bethenny Frankel (same show) They are funny and witty , and I enjoy reading their reactions to each of the episodes as they air. I also follow them on Twitter and love hearing all the interesting things they are doing.

When I got home today after spending way to much at the local grocery store (yes its cheaper to shop at Walmart in Madison but that would mean I have to tackle the Beltline on a day that I don't need to go on it so I opted for the over priced store here in town) I got all my house duties done and curled up on the couch with the kitties and snapped on Bravo to YESSSS catch the latest episode which I missed on Tuesday...

In a nutshell this episode I have to say was the most confusing...do we really care about Alex & Simon's renovation...was I the only one that noticed the only people who were there was the other cast members?-----Then there is awkward and (why is she on the show again) Kelly interaction...she shows up early (was this because she wanted to redeem herself from her extremely late arrival to her own party from the last episode?) and acts as if she really cares about Alex & Simon.

Any who---the real issue this episode is will Bethenny (my home girl) and Kelly ever get along. The answer is NO. Kelly really shows how immature she is when she clearly denies saying RUDE things to Bethenny (ummm hello they have footage of what you said you ignoramus) Its funny to watch how these women behave...but we have to be honest viewers as much as we think its immature and yet funny, we all act this way---they just have a camera crew to tape every moment of their lives.

I like this show, I'm not ashamed to admit it. Its fun to watch other people have problems, but I have to say its also fun because we've had the chance to watch other people be successful...Bethenny Frankels book NaturallyThin is still on NYC bestsellers list and we've really watched her company and entrepreneurial investments pay off. It is showing that hard work can pay off....and shes being smart...free advertising for a show your getting paid to do---wise women...watch and learn folks.

She's not the only one who is cashing in. Jill's definitely got lots of airtime for her and her husbands fabric business ZarinFabrics, Jeana from the OC cast is selling diet stuff, Ramona from NYC is selling Jewelery, The Countess a book for her self....is there anything these women can't sell? I think I'm in the wrong business....I just need to convince Bravo to do Real Housewives of the Midwest-----who wants to help me write my pitch ?

Well anyway, if you haven't had the chance to get to know the Bravo ladies of RHWoNYC there will be a marathon on Saturday so catch up on them...come on you know you want to escape your reality...so why not indulge and maybe get lost in someone else's.....

Hope you all have a great rest of the week....Busy month coming up...dance recital, nannies surgery, Tami's wedding---then comes summer :o)

The Real Housewives of New Jersey

2009-04-12T16:12:00.000-07:00

As If I need one more show to consume my life full of reality bites----Bravo has done it again and as People has outline for us in their first look at Bravos new addition of its "Real Housewives Drama-tology" it seems that this group of ladies will delight us with more outrageous behavior and "do they really live like this moments"

As I sat at home today on Easter Sunday of course I tuned to my favorite marathon channel Bravo and was excited to catch the end of the RHWo Orange County--(I missed the final episode) and was even more excited to see that I got the chance to catch the sneak peak at their new spin off the "New Jersey" wives.

As in true Bravo Fashion the episode began outlining each housewife and their "stories" giving us a teaser glance into their worlds.

As each girl was introduced throughout this episode I was so confused...did they really just say that sisters married brothers? Is that legal---how do you explain that to your friends yeah were' sisters and we married brothers---I thought that stuff only happened in backwards southern states. Then to throw another "sister" in the pack there is a housewife who married the two sisters brother---I'm thinking Bravo should have named this a completely different show like Family Ties or something (oh wait that show title was already used years ago oooh well)

The houses are extravagant, the drama is over the top and the cars are out of this world.

I have to say that this one may have to grow on me but I'm just not into the ladies at this time...They are a little to "wanna-be-ish" for me. Its like they are trying to be very much something that they are not...but I think its cause I'm bias with the New York ladies---maybe its cause I relate to them more as that is where my roots are from or maybe its because I have never really had positive experiences in Jersey myself.

Many articles and blogs have been written about this season for the Jersey ladies its been noted on the jokes such as the "big hair" "arm pit of the united states" etc etc....So I can't be original or witty when others have already taken the obvious punch line jokes--- but what I will say is we will be enjoying family feuds, Crazy purchases, and of course back-stabbing conversations between grow women living in fantasy worlds that of course we are glorifying by tuning in.

I just can't help it---its addicting. I know that I eventually I will be watching and following these gals as well but for now take a Sneakpeak at the show and let me know what you think. Of course my editor will probably roll her eyes and refuse to tune in, I'd like to think we could all escape from our realities and enjoy a little time in "reality TV land" to just be distracted for a while....Happy watching and tune in later this week when I do a recap of RHWoNYC...

Guilty pleasure that I enjoy

2009-04-07T19:43:00.000-07:00

As many of you know I have a very serious addiction to reality TV...many of my readers including my editor (cough cough do not quit) do not like reality TV...but my friends what a better way to escape from the hustle and bustle of our real lives then watch as other display their "real lives" on national TV?

I have to say there is a wide variety of them out there from modern day love connection shows, to weight loss shows, dance competitions, cooking competitions...you name it its out there...I will be trying to comment on many of them through out my blogging extravaganzas but you will notice the shows that I care for more or find more entertaining will be mentioned more then once.

I have to tell you that one lazy day as the snow fell outside my little WI apartment window I flicked to bravo and saw a TV show called The Real Housewives of Orange County...in true and absolute boredom I watched the entire marathon..I met the wives (characters) and got engrossed with their "real" lives...I laughed at their petty hardships and also their often anti-climatic fights. I welcome you to learn their stories at the Bravo Website.

Well as my days pass by I find myself being addicted to this little series that bravo has created and found that I truly like the NYC edition of this show. The ladies are funny, dramatic, and remind me obviously of my roots (as I am east "coastie" as my cheese head friends are now referring to me as) Jill and Bethenny remind me of me and an old friend, and I can relate to their characters ( I wish I could relate to their bank accounts) I have enjoyed this particular addition to the Bravo series so much that I have begun following the blogs of both Jill and Bethenny and offer them to you for review. Jillsblog is here please check it out. Shes hilarious opinionated and I enjoy her rants about the happenings of the show during her live blog. Bethenny caught my attention with her skinny girl margarita ( a girl after my own hear to create a cocktail line for those watching their figure) Bethenny is a character and I love her--she is out-spoken and loves attention :o) I love her book (yes I bought it) and I think others should check out her amazing recipes at her Website

Needless to say I have to give the Real Housewives a couple of stars on my reality show to watch meter...

However I have to say I don't really know if I'm going to enjoy the New Jersey series---its just gonna be a bunch of ladies wishing they lived in NYC (my personal opinion)

Well now that I've given you a minor, (extremely minor) run down on the different types of shows I'll be reviewing I hope you come back and really help me decipher reflections from reality on a weekly basis :o)

A Change In Pace----Makes work a happy place

2009-04-03T20:20:00.000-07:00

As many of you know---I had a boss....this boss was poisoness---she was a horrible manager--with a lack for detail, communication skills, and of course a horrible lack of business sense...

Once upon a time I searched daily the online job markets searching for the opportunity to leave the job I had, anything would be better then the stress and horrible working conditions between supervisors I endured everyday as the days creeped by and I suffered from slight anxiety about walking into my office...And one day after the 500Th resume was emailed out I received a phone call for an interview. I was pumped...SCORE an opportunity to flee....My friend, and partner in crime was leaving the company and this interview came at just the perfect time...

Needless to say excited about the interview I entered our weekly staff meeting only to hear that Julie--the boss with no clue was leaving. Was this a joke, could it be true...this is amazing GREAT SUPER....do I go to the interview?---You bet I did...never miss an opportunity...at least try and see if it was meant to be.

I went to the interview, however did not get the job. I am a true and firm believer that everything does happen for a reason and let me tell you the changes that took place finally made the company that I have really put my heart and soul into come alive. We've completely begun moving forward . We got a new VP who is laid back, yet professional, educated---and willing to educate...and also very approachable..work life is GREAT!!!! Finally a normal working atmosphere....

NOW THE REAL GOOD NEWS

Things have moved right along at the dance studio---I am meeting with the owner/director and will be possibly begin a full time salaried position with the dance company---all good things come to those who wait...there was definitely a reason that I did not get the other job that I interviewed with...Things have begun really going for me...I'm happy, I'm creative...and I feel confident in what I spend my time doing everyday....Keep your fingers crossed for a full time dance position---for then I will be truly living my dream :o)

The News No One Wants

2009-04-03T19:10:00.000-07:00

Hello My Blogging Buddies...As promised here come some blogs.

Well the last Actual blog I wrote was after one of the happiest days of my life. My wedding....it has been a great joy and blessing being united with my love...I was lucky to have all my friends and family there especially my Nannie.

Nannie is my mum's mum and probably the most important person in my life. We knew something was wrong because she wasn't herself or up to par when she visited but in true queen fashion she made the trip to share in my special day. Shortly after her visit to the Midwest she went to see the doctor again for ailments that had been troubling her for months.

The bad news came the day before thanksgiving....the big C----Cancer....now Cancer is a hard thing to swallow for anyone at anytime...however the C word came with a nasty stage level and hers was the worst one---surgery not an option...talk about a one two punch.

Thanksgiving was hard for me and the months to follow not so easy either. Taking my savings for Christmas gifts I booked a flight right away for home for the holidays...I needed to be with her. I spent the day after Christmas through new years eve with my Nannie and really just enjoyed some quality time with her.

She has been going through her Chemo treatments and last week it was discovered that the treatments had little effect on the masses. She is no going through a course of tests to see if she is physically ready for surgery. We're patiently crossing our fingers and keeping her spirits up.

Its hard being away from your family, but its especially hard when you want to be there for them through a tough time.

I talk to my Nannie everyday and wish everyday I had enough money to visit her once a month.

She finally got her wig the other day and let me tell you this little sassy Brit looks stunning. (shes up top)

I am a firm believer that she is to strong not to beat this. Her spirits are high and shes attacking it full force. Its very hard for her not to----I don't allow her to be negative.

I know that cancer effects thousands....millions each day...and its not getting any easier to cure..to deal with...to live with...however it is here and we can't ignore it. I have been blessed with an amazing family, compassionate co-workers, and supportive friends...and The love and strength that they have offered to my Nannie is amazing...they need to know that a huge part of her healing and battle is being fought because of their thoughts and strength and I am forever grateful to them. . . .

I'll keep everyone posted on Nannies progress...for now shes strutting about in that fabulous new do, making tea, and learning to slow down and do nothing once in a while :o)

I'll be back I Promise!!!

2009-04-02T13:47:00.001-07:00

Hello my faithful readers (do you still exist or did I loose you completely)

Just wanted to let you know that tomorrow I plan on updating both of my blogs---yes I have two that I have so hurtfully ignored for the past several months.

Friday night and its just me, a bottle of wine and my lap top---sounds fun doesn't it...:o)

Come back for your reading pleasure I have lots to share and lots to gush my feelings about....

Happy Thursday all

This Day I Married My Friend <333

2008-10-22T19:00:00.000-07:00

Well its official, me and the lady Tied the knot on Saturday October 18th, 2008. It was a fun filled, love covered weekend and it was everything I dreamt of even as a little girl.

April and I began our weekend wedding adventure on Thursday morning when we went to pick up some gifts for our bridal party . The boys got beer mugs and the girls white wine glasses with their initials.

We picked up Bri, Tiff and Mary from the bus station on Thursday and headed out to a dance club to celebrate our last night of being a "regular couple" This is me with my girls.

Friday Morning we picked up our delicious cake and headed to the hotel. Where I finally got to see my mum and nannie for the first time in almost a year. It was soooo good to see them. We unpacked and headed to the pool for a swim and hot tub. Friday night the wedding party and out of state guests joined us for dinner at the Moose Jaw Pizza and Brewery and we enjoyed yummy pizza's and pitchers of micro-brew beer. I was finally re-united with my best friend from High School Melanie and her dad Papa Joe.

After dinner we all headed back to our hotel so that we could jump back in the hotel pools and thought it would be a great idea to take over the water slides. It was great fun followed by how many of us will fit in the room hot tub. Good times had all around.

The big day finally arrived which started with a breakfast with everyone at I-Hop before the preparations for the day began. Everyone gathered in our room and helped as much as they could. We headed to the chapel and the ceremony went well (minus how hot it was---holy hotness) We headed to the Dells River walk for some pictures and they all came out great.

After pictures we headed to the restaurant where we ate amazing food and of course dug into our delicious cake. Or as you can see smashed into the cake hehehehe

After the dinner those who were still standing headed to Maryl's to conclude the night with cocktails and dancing. I must say even though how fast it all went I am so happy with how the whole weekend went. It went so fast I can barely remember everything, and I wish there was more time to spend it with everyone.

Great friends & family made our weekend complete. I can't tell you how great it is to be surrounded by so much love on such a special day. Its worth all the planning, and stress that comes before it. What I learned from all this is to always remain calm because things will happen that you can't control. But you can control the fun and happiness you spread throughout the process and believe me even through all the ups and downs everyone helped make this the best wedding ever.

I hope you all enjoyed the pictures my faithful readers and of course you can see all of them on my myspace page.

A wedding is a union between two people who love each other unconditionally and can only thrive when those two work each day with the help of their family and friends. I am so lucky that everyone that we surround ourselves with each day which includes not only family, but our friends, co-workers, and even knew friends came out to support our decision to promise our love to one another. I can only hope that everyone who decides to unite themselves with another has the support that we have received. I believe that many of our new friends have learned that love is never wrong, and no matter which way love manifests itself it is still just that LOVE.

So spread the LOVE---cause really Love is ALL YOU NEED :o)

You Can't Stop The Beat----

2008-08-27T20:25:00.000-07:00

Well my faithful reader(s) (I think I've dwindled down to a single reader now....

Anyway I decided it would be fun to put a play list of some of my favorite tunes on here for your listening pleasure (hopefully its not too distracting)

Well for an update. I start teaching next week and am so excited. Dance camp was a success and really motivated me for the year. We had our first faculty meeting this Monday and even began initial planning for the spring performance.

My "day" job is going OK, its not what I want it to be but I am determined to make the best of it.

The wedding is only about a month away, and everyone is booking their flights, rooms, and rental cars. I'm getting very excited.

As the seasons get ready to change and we say goodbye to, what to me seemed like the shortest summer in history, I anticipate a beautiful fall. Its my favorite time of year and will be my second fall in WI. I do miss my hills of NH and VT that engulf in flame like colors during the peek leaf peeping season but its OK because NH will be coming to me this fall. :o)

I hope everyone is still trying to play the glad game and is enjoying these last few lazy days of summer to the fullest.

PS the play list is at the bottom of my page...happy listening :o)

Measure your life in Love.....

2008-08-06T18:52:00.000-07:00

well my friends it has been a sad week. I have to report that sadly, two close people to me have passed in automobile accidents back home in New Hampshire.

Its hard to be this far away from all of my loved ones from back home and not be able to hold them in their time of mourning, however its time like this that I am reminded how precious and fragile all of our lives are.

I first met Liz at the age of 7 when I was assistant teaching her ballet class. A little blonde girl with big blue eyes entered and right away introduced herself to me. She was new to the studio but wasted no time in letting us all know her name and making friends. I continued to teach Liz throughout my time at the studio. The other day I got the message that she had passed in an automobile accident. Liz was only 19 years old, and had just finished her freshmen year of college at Arizona State University. Its so sad because she was so talented and so charming, she had a beautiful future in front of her. And I have to say the first image that popped into my head was Liz dancing a ballet solo that I had helped choreograph during my last year at the studio, I can still see her smile and how beautiful she looked on stage, it was as if I was watching this memory on the tv.

Liz will always be missed, and always remembered for she truly touched many lives during her short time with us.

Doug Bashshaw was a very close friend of the family, known to all of us as Uncle Doug. He was my dads best man my parents wedding, he was my brothers god father, and my cousins god father. He always brought a smile to your face whenever you saw him and gave the best hugs. His humor could make you laugh even at your most down point. Dough was in a motorcycle accident the other night and passed this afternoon. It's hard for me to hear that my family is mourning and I can't be there to offer hugs.

Loosing someone is never easy, its the hardest part of life I think. We don't know the words to say, what to do, or sometimes how to let go. Its never easy for anyone, and unfortunately its something we all have to go through. When we remember our passed loved ones, family, friends, co-workers, acquaintances....remember their smile, their laughter, the sparkle in their eyes. Remember each minute of their life as a moment of love. Like the song from rent says we can measure our lives in lots of things, sunsets, cups of coffee, inches, miles, laughter, but most important measure in love. Because love is something we can all give away freely and openly.

I hope that everyone gives a hug for just a second longer then normal, stays on the phone for a couple minutes more, and emails just to check in as often as they can. Because there is no gift like today and that's why it is called the present.

Disapointment Cocktail Anyone?

2008-07-07T20:11:00.000-07:00

Well today my readers I write to you with news that I unfortunately, foolishly, hoped would be better then, well....we all knew it would be.

Today after our usual Monday morning staff meeting I decided to request again a meeting with the "bosses" for a discussion on the increase I was promised in JUNE!!! (mind you its the 2ND week of July folks) and to my surprise, my request was granted at 11:15 am this morning---however the .94 cents that they offered me (making the increase a minuscule 1.40 with a "promotion") This increase was delivered as a "favor" as the company's financials are not in a stable condition to be "handing out raises"

I am astonished that I actually believed this increase and review would be positive. With my newly sparked anger I decided it would be best to calm myself down before communicating my frustrations and disappointment to my "boss"...who as always delivered a tony winning performance into why I have to accept this is what I was offered and that it is a personal choice whether I stay or go....

I guess that naive girl in me honestly believed that I would be paid what I deserved to be paid and that my hard work and numerous hours of overtime would be compensated and acknowledged.

However I will take this situation as another life lesson learned...the age old saying "the rich get richer and the poor poorer" is so true within this company. I am fighting for a losing battle that I believe can not ever be turned around.

There is one poison within that company (which a dear friend and reader has pointed out all along) and until that piousness individual is gone, the rest of the staff will not be happy---constant turnover will continue to occur....and eventually a lawsuit will fall on their hands.

So tonight as I lie in bed and listen to the booming thunder outside my window---I poor myself a glass of my favorite wine and have decided its OK to have a cocktail on a Monday---because I've named this cocktail a disappointment cocktail--anyone care to join me?

Green Acres is NOT the place to be.....

2008-06-22T12:55:00.000-07:00

Well faithful readers today I bring you my first dinning review....This Friday the lady and I wanted to get a bite to eat and try a place we've never been. As we are a fan of the Wisconsin Dells and travel there often we thought of a little place we pass on the way to the Dells. Its name, Green Acres....

Each time we pass it the parking lot is full and we always said "we have to eat there sometime" so this past Friday we finally made the left hand turn into the parking lot and thought we'd try it out. I texted my friend Jessica to see if she wanted to join and she said she couldn't but that we would love the food. Now April has heard from lots of people too that the food is great....so why the heck wouldn't we try it right?

We walk up to the hostess stand where a nicely dressed gentleman took my name and said it would be about 45 to 50 minutes for the wait, which in a Friday is pretty much what your going to have to wait anywhere so we decided to stick it out. Positioned ourselves by the bar, hoping that two seats would become available (which they never did) So we waited. 55 minutes passed and we still hadn't been seated....so we grabbed a menu and thought we'd pick what we want so that when we were seated we could order right away (by this time we were quite hungry)

An hour and seventeen minutes after our arrival my name was called and we were brought to a small table on the second level. It took our waiter another sixteen minutes (yes by this time I was counting) to greet us and take our drink and dinner order. Twenty one minutes after the greeting and ordering took place our ice teas finally showed up. Fifteen minutes after that, dinner finally arrived....my dinner was cold, he forgot Aprils coleslaw with her fish fry and we were out of tea and water....Our glasses NEVER got refilled...after I picked at the cold dinner in front of me long enough for April to enjoy her fish I told her I couldn't eat anymore and would just eat a sandwich when we got home....The waiter came back about forty minutes after delivering our meal asked if I wanted a box...I had clearly stacked plates on my cold crummy dinner and shook my head no.

He returned eleven minutes later to ask if we wanted desert...we shook our heads (I was trying to be polite secretly I wanted to run out of there and say I would never be back) and twelve minutes later he finally brought the check....

We made our way back downstairs and April paid the bill...I couldn't even stand there as she did because I was afraid if I was asked how the meal was I would tell them how I really felt and would embarrass April....

I have come to the conclusion that the only reason people like this place is because during their long wait to be seated they are pumped full of alcohol and who doesn't like any kind of food once they have dipped into the sauce for over an hour.....

I do not recommend this establishment and will NEVER go back there again!

However...I did win over 50 bucks at the casino following the horrible dinning experience, so it wasn't a total loss for the night.

A little east coast in the midwest....ahhhh FINALLY :o)

2008-06-18T18:30:00.000-07:00

Well I haven't written in a while and I can't say that anything super interesting has happened since my sun burn occurred.

HOWEVER....(drum roll please) one of my BESTEST friends from back east has moved to Chicago...she is only 2 hours from me.

I can't wait to travel to see her on weekends and just spend some quality time with someone who shares a passion for dance the size of my own...

I am so excited to have her close as she will be in the wedding....and having her near to help with the planning....

I used to think I had to spend lots of time with people to make them my best friends, and be close to them all the time. During my journey 1/2 way across the country I have done a lot of soul searching and really found out who my true friends are. Mary is a true friend, through thick and thin she has been there, even when over 1,000 miles separated us. Not any friend will drive 3 hours in a snow storm just to see you for 3 hours while your visit back home....that's my Mary....

I guess I just wanted to take a blog to express how grateful I am for my friendship with this individual because sometimes we don't really verbalize enough how important people are to us, fortunately I don't have to say it all the time...its known between her and I, but she deserves a shout out because she is THAT special....

Happy Hump Day All!

Holy SUN Batman!

2008-06-02T20:25:00.000-07:00

Well my faithful readers....here is my thought for the day.....

THE SUN WILL KILL US ALL....

This weekend me and my lovey lady went to the Wisconsin Dells to relax for her birthday. Got us a lovely room with a giant whirlpool in the room and a balcony...so romantical I know...well we also thought it would be a great way to end the weekend and visit NOAHS ARK...the country's "LARGEST WATERPARK"....Invited some of our friends and made a day of it...

Cant complain about the weather it was perfect, and can't complain about the crowded because I think the most we waited in line for a ride was about 4.62 minutes. It really was the perfect day.

Being the mom that I am I am adimate that EVERYONE put sunscreen on 30 minutes before exposure to the sun to make sure our base sunblock coat is on. Not to mention I carry with me at all times in the summer a large tube of SPF 50...Ultra Sweat/Water Proof. This lovely bottle has seen me through some great summers and I haven't been burned in many years...however it does not compete against a day at the water park.

I am completely sun burned from head...down to my toes...yes folks my toes are sunburned. Its not a deep sunburn thank god (I've had a couple of those in my life..) but gosh it still hurts.

I had to teach dance today (which my friends was AMAZING the class was so happy at the end and kept saying thank you and they can't wait to take class with me this fall) but daaaaang it hurts to wear a leotard when you have a sunburn.....

Listen guys...I know that everyone says "I don't burn" or "I wont be out there long" Cover up...wear a hat...use sun block.....the sun is NOT our friends...we have damaged our earth and I'm convinced this sunburn is my punishment for not recycling lately......

OUCH!

Have a great week....let me know if you find an SPF 100 ;o)

Laugh A Little....Live A Little

2008-05-21T07:18:00.000-07:00

Well previously I have written about my underpaid job I have here in lovely WI. But today I realized something. Money doesn't always buy happiness, and although I may be underpaid I have never enjoyed working with a group of people as much as I do here.

I think the phrase "laughter is the best medicine" can go a long way...especially in our filed of work (we manage assisted living homes for the elderly).

Nothing is a better sound then a bunch of people laughing and enjoying each others company. This morning I have had quite a few hard, from the belly laughs...you know the kind that you can't control and sometimes can even bring a tear of joy from your eye....and let me tell you it really does set the mood for the whole day.

I recently blogged about getting out their and using your endorphins...well today I'm telling you to get out there and laugh. Tell a joke, a funny story, or just listen to one...your day will seem brighter and you might add a little bounce to your step.

To often in today's life we forget about the little things because we get wrapped up in issues that, though are important, aren't the reason for living. When you go into work (or you telecommute) take the five minutes to talk with your co-worker...instead of venting a concern or frustration...make it a point to say something good or fun that happened to you, or that your going to do. Try for a second to always see that glass half full....I guess you could say I am inspired from this blog in watching the news on the tragedies that are occurring around the world...and I got ashamed of myself for not being able to fit the 50 inch TV I bought in our cars and had to return and being a grump for the whole day about it....I let something so small and insignificant ruin a whole day....a whole day that could have been spent enjoying every little thing that made me smile.

I sound like Susie sunshine...or Pollyanna....which reminds me of my best friend Melanie...she always said "shorty....play the glad game" because I often came home from my Financial Aid Job with complaints....she always encouraged me to speak of the good things in my day and let the bad things just fall away....

so my challenge to you my faithful three readers....play the glad game for one whole week. Try your hardest to seek out the good things...(I'm not saying ignore all things bad because that comes with life too) I just want you to try to put the bad on the back burner and cook yourself a heaping hot pot of GLAD! And if you can do it for one week...you can do it from now on!

Now get to it !

"Endorphins Make You Happy.....

2008-05-14T19:48:00.000-07:00

Happy people just dont kill their husbands....they just don't" ~Elle Woods.

Well people another opinion from my short self is coming your way.

Exercise is the BEST anti-depressent, Stress relief, Mood booster, and of course fat burning facet around.

I have always been a relatively active person, coaching two college teams, my own work out plan (thanks mel m) and of course the weekly outings to "the club" kept me fit in NH...and then I moved to cheese land. I kinda stopped all that...and found myself not being depressed but just not my peppy, spunky, fun self. Not to mention the stress level of my job multiplied by thirty...

Weight Gained, and poopy attitude made me realize HEY GIRL get it together.
I purchased the Biggest Loser Cardio Max dvd and religiously visit fitness magazines website for cool new weight training circuits to work on and have taken up walking in the am with my lady (what a great way to start the day).....and let me tell you

THERE'S A DIFFERENCE. I find myself to be my funny self, a little sparkle in my eye, and well just in a better mood.

As the weather warms up, get out there people do a little bit of exercise....get that heart rate up and watch "life" seem to get a little better with a little help from those endorphins :o)

peace and love all!

rain rain go away

2008-05-10T16:47:00.000-07:00

Here I sit on a gloomy Saturday wasting my life away in front of my lap top....So I got to thinking....Aren't we supposed to have May Flowers right now? Nope not in WI we've got overcast skies and rain in the forecast...BOOO!

This past week seemed to have me going at about three times full speed ahead and this up coming week isn't going to be any easier....I long for the days that I spend them dancing and creating dance...(soon my friends soon!)

I have another interview next week at Edgewood College, a small private institution here in Madison. We'll see how well it goes. If I could get that and possibly work a little something out with the dance studio I may be able to hang up my Payroll HR hat for good. I will NEVER work in this field again. I dont know what I got myself into...I find myself longing to be a receptionist again rather then deal with what I do deal with in this position.

Oh...on another note.. NOTE TO SELF! 50 inch flat screen HDTV's do NOT fit in a Toyota Camry or a Mecury Cougar. After about 4 trips to and from the Wisconsin Dells we still do not have our supersized tv that we purchased. Ended up getting our money back and are still watching our little old 21 incher.....Did I mention I crushed my wee hand?

Well I guess I'll spare you any more rambling. Have a great rest of the weekend All!

xoxo

The Verdict is In.....

2008-04-21T19:22:00.000-07:00

I GOT THE JOB!

I'm so excited. I'm the newest teacher at A Step Above Dance and Music Acadmey. I start teaching in June for some summer classes, and then more classes starting in August.

I'm extremely excited and want to thank everyone who rooted me on, and offered great encouragement.

It feels good to be getting back into my passion and what truely makes me happy.

HAVE A GREAT WEEK ALL!

a little place called family island

2008-04-13T17:33:00.000-07:00

Just to make a few points. I enjoy kids...they are cute...you know the quiet respectable kind that listen to their parents. However I have a serious problem with out of control, loud, screaming, rude, and inconsiderate children that I seem to come in contact with whenever I venture out.

Long ago April told me about a lovely place she's invented called "Family Island" Its a place. where all those kid loving, wanting to reproduce people and their offspring can go where they will not effect the daily lives of those of us who don't own any loud mouthed rude off spring and wish to avoid them at all costs.

Today while enjoying a lovely Sunday afternoon at the mall with April's brother I got to thinking, why don't parents have more control over their kids. I can not stand the ingorance level of todays parents that continues to increase each day. If you have children it is your duty to teach them manners as well as have control over them in social settings. Allowing children to run around a mall unsupervised is not only irresponsible but it is also extremly annoying to those of us who do not have children yet have to deal with your out of control children during our days off.

I appluad parents who have instilled respect and control over their children. Those children are the quiet ones who stand next to their parents and also say the words excuse me, sorry, and thank you.

After being pushed by a gang of 13 year olds carrying their holister and claires accessories bags as they ran through the mall cackling like a gaggle of mini witches, and feverishly texting the other group of cackling heinias at the other end of the mall, I then had to wait for a six year old who was scared to get on the escalator, who only had one shoe on, dropped her mitten and it was on its way up, and the parent was no where in site I thought I might lose it.

I think that as I grow older I have less and less tollerence or patiience for this type of behavior. I think that malls should dedicate ONE DAY to ADULTS ONLY. where those of us who want to enjoy the day shopping and looking through the overly priced items at all the stores can shop in peace and not be pushed, stopped, or cut in front of by the youth of today with no parental guidence. . . . here "family island" would come in handy

and that is my rant for the day....

Labels are no fun----so this is the "new age lesbian"

2008-03-26T17:05:00.001-07:00

First off ---lets start with background to this post.

I believe stereotypes and labels are "for the birds" however it is common in my life when people discover that I am gay their initial comment is "but you don't look it"----I didn't know there was a certain "look" I had to aquire to "be a lesbian"

However I do know that people do associate "types" or people with labels and preconcieved visions of what that person should look like.....

There a millions of people in this world, all walks of live, all shapes and sizes...(you get my drift) and some how it still kind of shocks me that today people would say something like "but you don't look it".

Opinion 1 from me - Lesbians don't look the same, just like straight females don't look the same. We don't have a certain look to us, we don't have a secret mark that you can observe to point us out, and we don't wear IM A LESBIAN shirt on a daily basis to make it easier for you to spot us.

Opinion 2 from me - we are people, individuals...not a phenomona or zoo exhibit to be pointed out and gauked at....so stop with the "no your not" "can I watch" "but you can't be" statements...its old...outdated...and down right annoying.

ok enough ranting....

anyway I do have a point I promise

The other night my friend Bekah imed me to ask me to contribute to her list (Bekah is gay...just an FYI), when I asked what list she said what makes a lesbian today, easy ways to spot them on the street......I laughed for a minute (you all clearly see my feelings regarding singaling out of a lesbians from above) However it got me to thinking....

I made comment the other day on a friends blog "gay is the new straight" and it made me think of the friends I used to hang out with and the group dynamic we shared but also portrayed in social settings. It also made me think of the tv shows that now are showing that lesbians aren't a specific type and don't look a certain way....(see Degrassi , South of Nowhere...The L Word...you get my point) however the company I used to keep fell directly into the outline provided by Bekah's "List"

doc martins.. belts (you know the buckle kind and cloth kind with the rings), walking with your hands in the front pockets of you pants, hats, carabiners,thumb rings, plaid ,pumas,mens wallets, satchels, leather cuffs,button ups, chap stick, baseball shirts, layers, sports bras nix the sports , boardshorts,cargo shorts,hoodies, thermals, army/olive green, camo, military inspired jackets, sideways hats, vests/ties/suspenders (to suspend things), motorcylces/trucks, sleeveless shirts, animal shirts, girlie boy style underoos,bandanas, cats, lword,south of nowhere, brandi carlile, indigo girls, tegan and sara, ferrick, etc,aviators, playing the guitar,drama,softball, baggy clothes, if you've ever said the phrase "i need to take a leak",tatts,peirced tongue,driving a subaru, jeep or truck,wallet chains, holding beer bottles by the neck, using the phrase"don't i know you from myspace" as a pick up line, sweat bands-minus the sweat.....the list goes on

As you can see this list is pretty funny...not completely accurate but pretty entertaining to say the least. I swear that more then half of that list is like I would look at a picture of my friends in a picture from memorial day in p-town MA.

Please just find humor in this list, I know I did because I'm guilty of some of it.....

its all in fun.

Night all

Thoughts become things....Choose the good ones!

2008-03-26T15:59:00.000-07:00

think that quote might just be the best advice someone has ever given me (thank you Carol Stanmore).....The other day as I sat feeling sorry for myself and my incredibly underpaid job I have been letting ruin my mood the last two weeks, I got off my sorry for myself butt and took a walk. I took time to reflect on the advice of many and time to gather my thoughts.

When I returned home from my walk of reflection I decided to put the good thoughts out there. I am a very talented experienced dance educator and performer....I need to do what makes me happy. So to the web I went, googling dance studios in the Madison area and also positions that could possibly be open. I told myself "You will find a job tonight"....low and be hold my thoughts became things (well lets not jump to conclusions...I haven't actually gotten the job yet) but to say the least a job perfect for me was sitting there waiting for my response.

I emailed out my very extensive and may I brag impressive dance resume to A step above dance and music academy. This morning I received a reply. The director was impressed with my resume and wanted to schedule an interview right away.

I can't express the excitement that I have for this opportunity. I hope that after the interview the director feels that I will be the ideal candidate for the position and offers me a teacher role within her academy.....of course...there are details to be discussed such as compensation, hours, etc...the big one (benefits). I will sacrifice no health benefits and seek out individual coverage should the price and hours be right...there is a lot to consider such as vacation time etc. However I really want to get involved with teaching and dancing everyday again. I feel that I am most happy when I can do so. Not to mention it is a great opportunity to get my name out in the arts community in this area which is so new to me.

I will continue working at my dreaded underpaid job of course, and will eventually some day approach the president about the much needed raise, however this is a light at the end of the tunnel in terms of me preparing for the need for another job.

It really is true...Thoughts become things....CHOOSE THE GOOD ONES! (we waste to much time and energy on the bad ones and become disappointed when the bad "ones" keep happening to us)

Get to thinking....and choose wisely

J

oh yeah (wish me luck)

***for your viewing pleasure....please enjoy below photo of my dance team from New Hampshire...I coached them for four years, our last year left us with 3 first place regional titles, two grand champion titles...and of course 2007 NATIONAL CHAMPIONS**

Overworked....Underpaid.....

2008-03-24T19:13:00.000-07:00

I know that everyone is probably facing the same problem with this thriving economy and all (note tone of sarcasm)....however I'm facing a pretty serious issue.

This fall as many know I packed my things and moved half way across the country to wonderful Madison WI. I accepted a position as a receptionist/administrative assistant for a real estate development firm. They also asked that I do minor HR data entry for them.

Well as time moved on I quickly accepted the role of HR manager and then also took on the role of Payroll manager as well. However with the increased job duties and responsibilities I did not receive a raise.

About two weeks ago I received a "raise" technically the company moved me from hourly to salary and only offered a 40 cent raise.

I am rather upset and feel a little taken advantage of. I have done research as a great friend has suggested, and will be bringing these issues up to my vice president.

In my research I found that a clerk (which is less responsible for all that I am responsible for) is paid 35K. I do not understand how some companies continue to underpay their workers.

I wouldn't have an issue with this as I know that my degree and background is not in the area in which I am working now....however I was thrown into the deep end and have come out doing the back stroke with ease. I have learned many things quickly and continue to improve numerous aspects of our company. The other issue that pushes my buttons is that we seem to be overpaying those whom don't work as much as those of us who are working overtime constantly.

If anyone has any suggestions on the best way possible to verbalize my request for at least minimal compensation for the job that I am doing that would be great.

~J

First day of Spring.....or Winter?....can't decide

2008-03-21T18:03:00.000-07:00

Well here I sit in my apartment...Salma on my lap and Sagey by my side SNOWED IN. Its hard to believe that yesterday it was almost 50 degrees and we saw grass everywhere finally. Wisconsin weather is NOT different from New England (back home they used to say we could go through all four seasons in a single day....) However in WI i think that the boycott Plowing. and if they do plow the do not do it soon enough. I commute 15 minutes to work everyday (with good weather) this morning it took me over an hour to get into the office, turned around 2 hours later to come home and it took almost an hour and a half to get home safely...which my I add could not pull into my driveway. So as the small ice balls pelted against April and I's faces we dug the snow from around my car and some how got the car into the back lot. I called my landlord (yes we're still renting...) and asked that he have a plow come through as the snow drifts in the back of the lot are not allowing me to pull the car into the garage....the man he had come did not plow the driveway nearly enough and completely ignored the problem which is the portion in back of our garage door.

I swear this "winter" can not be over fast enough. I would rather own my own home where I am in control of the snow removal and I can by a nice snow blower to plow out my driveway.

You may be wondering why I wouldn't just shovel myself out...well I have in the past. I have missed days of work and also been late because of the inability to drive out of the driveway...this after spending hours trying to dig myself out. Snow removal is covered in our lease and also being advertised in the vacant unit above us (we live in a quaint quadraplex) So I think its the landlords responsibility to take care of it.

Annnnny way....my point to this blog....I hope this snow goes away fast, I am longing for days of Capri's, flippers, and no bundling up.

HERES TO SPRING!

RiverDance.....the farewell tour

2008-03-21T17:40:00.000-07:00

Well my first theatre experience in Madison is complete. I joined my friends Wendy and Crystal from work to attend the farewell tour of Riverdance at the Overture center on March 12th. I must say this theatre complex is beautifully designed and offered numerous venues for theatrical performances.

We entered the theatre to take our seats which just happened to be in the third row of the balcony, smack dab in the middle. I don't usually like to sit in the balcony because it offers a view which doesn't normally do a performance justice. However those were the best available seats that weren't sold out at the time we purchased our tickets. (I prefer to sit in the mezzanine level in the center. Best view of the entire stage and close enough to see all emotions of performers) Regardless of the height of our seats I believe the balcony was a good choice for Riverdance. It gave us an entire view of the stage as well as a semi birds eye view for complete formation and transition viewing of the dancers.

I never knew the story of Riverdance until after the show I googled the story line. I literally had only seen it a few times on PBS and really enjoyed the intricacy of the footwork. As many know it was created by Michael Flatley who is also the star of Lord of The Dance. This show intimately includes musical interludes, signing, narration, and of course my favorite dance. In a short summary Riverdance tells the story and history of Ireland through its "lifetime" beginning with the immigration of numerous cultures to the island of Ireland, through the potato famine, the immigration to the united states, and then the return to the home land. In essence it also talks about culture and how most culture have a deep history and commitment to the land on which it was created, and how in many aspects it all starts with a connection to the river.

After reading the information I found at this helpful site. I really understood the whole performance and feel that I left not only entertained but also educated.

Its a shame that this travelling performance will be ending but I'm thankful that I had the opportunity to see it live. To understand Riverdance please feel free to read this links analysis of the show http://www.hbci.com/~tgort/rdance.htm

I also wanted to comment on the young man who sat next to me at the show. So sophisticated he was, he entered the theatre with his mother dressed to the nines. He had a full tux on and even carried a small white scarf which he elegantly draped over his shoulders. Now that is what I remember a trip to the theatre meant. Getting a good meal, dressed up, and enjoying amazing performances. It brought a smile to my face and reminded me of younger days at the theatre with my grandmother Joan.

If you have the chance to see the show, go.....until then I'll wait till the next performance rolls through.

Peace and Love.
J